August 24, 2004
happy family
I feel weird for even going as far as writing this on here, but I'm just curious to know whether or not anyone could relate on any level to the following:
At times I wonder what it would be like to have both a husband and a wife, and if such a thing could ever be a possibility.
<< hundred mile | Main | uberfun >> 10:02 PM by RobI think of it as the most complete answer to any of my sexuality-based life questions. The three of us would love eachother and look after eachother; raise a family together; and everything that goes along with it. Roles could alternate depending on who's day it was to cook, who's turn to pick the kids up from soccer practice, who wanted to take the family out for dinner.... on arriving home from work, "honies, i'm home."
Am I just mentally disturbed from some undefinable variable in my environment? Of course there would be an exponential number of problems with this. The main ones being, of course, society acceptance, and a list of issues between members that could go on and on (ie. you two have spent too much time together, I want time to spend with [name] as well. stop hogging.)
Then there are all the emotional problems that would develop in the potential children "well MY mom and MY dads are..." "your what now? kids have 1 mom and 1 dad, not TWO, you're STUPID"
It's just something to think about... and seems highly utopian in my eyes if all parties involved had complete love and faith in eachother.
Hmm. Perhaps I should just become a man servant/he-maid?
Y'all can think I'm weird now. Go ahead, call the psychiatrist...
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I think it's possible and I have even heard of such relationships existing. But is it legal?
Posted by: mikeyinbarcelona at August 25, 2004 04:36 AMI saw this show on TV about "Swingers". There was one couple (yes, husband and wife, with kids) that were batting for both teams. They'd meet people online, "date them" and possibly hookup. I guess that's the closest I can see working in real life.
I've spent much time thinking about family life in my future. As much as I'd want to have a "traditional" family, I don't see it happening. The nerving thing is that I haven't heard of many homosexual fathers raising kids, or if there are any out there that want to. I know I want to be a father, and for two men, it's a little more difficult to procreate. Sure there's adoption, but I want the child to be part of me AND part of the other father. It's just a little more difficult that way.
I adore your novel thinking though, brings me to think of the Mormons and the practice of Pologamy.
Posted by: Steven at August 25, 2004 05:51 AMSteven, what about this idea proposed by a lesbian friend of mine? Each partner conceives a child to the same father (or vice versa in a gay male relationship).
That way the children feel like genuine siblings and connected to both parents in the same sex relationsip.) Because ultimately having children is about their needs, not the parents'
such a thought :)
Posted by: mikeyinbarcelona at August 26, 2004 05:17 AMmikey, that could work, but I'm still like steven - man1 + man2 = baby would be the best. (cause otherwise there'd be the whole 'this one is my baby, that one is your baby.')
Posted by: rob at August 26, 2004 12:03 PMAND you can see that the math produces TWO children. And then to be fair, that'd be a whole lot of kids to keep them all at even. And I would totally baby my child and piss on the others... (I kid!).
Posted by: Steven at August 26, 2004 04:32 PMHave you seen "Garden State"? It's pretty much about this topic. In the end, it doesn't work. Jealousies get in the way -- someone always feels slighted or less appreciated or less loved than the others.
Posted by: Aaron at August 27, 2004 06:34 AMreally? cool. i've been wanting to see it but never actually knew what it was about.
Posted by: rob at August 27, 2004 06:55 AMI'd be far too jealous for this. Might not be too jealous on another man, but then my hubby wouldn't want that ;) You're sure the woman's not in the equation just for the sake of reproduction? 'Cause there are tummy mummies for that kind of thing. You could have an egg or three from me, we're not having any more kids anyway...
Posted by: Scholiast at March 18, 2007 06:18 AM