March 25, 2008

headwaters

I wasn't sure what to say. Earlier on I had smiled and nodded, thinking it was an exaggeration to make a point. But when it was presented with, "Can you keep a secret?" a faint, but distinguishable feeling of guilt rose up in me. "I'm going to leave him," she continued. My cousin, going on 38, was preparing to escape the situation she had lived in for 18 years. It had reached the point where none of their 3 children, from 9 to 16 years, would speak to their father, or be comfortable in his presence. Her mind, and her body, deserved a healthier environment. And domestic abuse immediately became personal.

<< unconsidered | Main | italia >> 03:54 PM by Rob

She had made attempts to find him help, and to work it out, but his addiction was an impassable barrier. Her boss knows, and she has friends helping her find a new home, she recently acquired a job in the mall below my campus, and she still has a speck of hope in her eye. Boss appeared, I stole a hug, and waved goodbye as she hurried off to start her shift. Never has, 'we should meet for coffee,' affected me so.

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The next morning I woke with the sun.. a pleasant surprise from the forecasted rain/clouds. I eventually rolled out of bed, showered, prepared my bag, and ran down to the street. Soon enough, the sound of an approaching engine revealed my friends car, and I hopped into the passenger seat. We drove into the rising sun, visors down to protect our sight. Snow coated the mountains on the North Shore - our final destination. We stopped by 29th Ave Station and picked up 2 other classmates before heading for the highway. The four of us, adventurers preparing for the upcoming field school, decided to test out our bodies in anticipation for the days of walking we'll experience in Italia.

Clouds scattered the sky as we crossed the 2nd Narrows into North Van. The towers of downtown, sparkling in the distance, were no match for the mountains drawing us north. We winded up through residential hills before reaching the final lot outside Lynn Headwaters. Now, I'm sure I must have visited Lynn Valley at some point in my youth, but if I have, I can't remember. Either way, I'm positive I wouldn't have hiked the same 9km as a youngster.

It started off pleasant. Sun venting through the treetops, highlighting the undergrowth below. As we ascended, ice chunks began falling from the canopy, waging warfare on our heads. We reached a lookout, providing a partial view of the metropolis below - the bridge crossed earlier, perfectly aligned with our current location. Back into the forest, the snow underfoot grew deeper as we continued, and our shoes doubled as skis down many of the slight dips and slopes. Dozens and dozens of photos later, we reached a clearing that lead towards the creek splitting the valley. The sun that had been playing hide and seek decided to hide once more, as snow began to fill the sky. 4ft snowbanks lined the path towards the water, beckoning childhood emotions within me. I resisted the urge to duck, or dig, or write in its walls, but the others weren't so restrained.

The snow grew heavier and turned to rain as we made our way back along the trail that followed the creek. No longer sheltered by the forest canopy, we found refuge in the occasional tree well. Fellow hikers or park goers grew in number as we neared the end of the trail. It was getting to be midday, and families were out to take advantage of their day off. We were glad to be near the end of the return trip, having enjoyed minimal human interruption on our journey. As soon as we reached the map at the trail head, and crossed the final bridge towards the lot, the clouds parted and the sun celebrated our arrival.

I made it home, bidding farewell to my classmates before taking advantage of the hot tub on the main floor, and retired to my bed to rest. It was no more than 3pm, but my Good Friday was nearing the border to being a great Friday.

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Spotting rowers in the dark below the Cambie Bridge.
Enjoying fare dolce niente with the roommate.
Finding a new outfit to make Easter a little more special.
Singing my best in that new outfit to make Easter a little more memorable.
Leaving time between commitments to sit, ponder, and improve.
Appreciating, savoring, living, and loving every minute I get to spend in my room, apartment, neighbourhood, and city, before the approaching move back to Delta.
Zoning out in lectures to write, reflect, and share, and feel great about doing it. Sorry Zorana!

Comments

Sorry to hear about your cousin, but she seems to be on her way to better times. Good for her to know you're there if she needs you and yes, you can keep a secret - you're way too good at it, actually...

The walk with your friends sounded really nice, I was just wondering why on earth you resisted the urge to play in the snow? Surely you can't be too old for it (I'm not...) - perhaps you're not old enough? ;)

And thanks for taking time to share - no need to feel anything but great, that's what you are!

Posted by: scholiast at March 26, 2008 01:50 AM

Not only was it 9Km but the topography was up and down and by the looks of your pictures, over downed trees etc. Although, I studied Italian for two years, I never have had the chance to use it in Italy. Perhaps, some day. I did get to use it in France as well as French, of course. I am rusty from lack of practice and would most likely, get myself into trouble. ;-) I studied the Tuscan dialect and my teacher said that everyone would be able to understand me but I would have problems understanding many other regions that have their own local dialect. When do you leave for Italy and how long do you plan to stay?

Thanks for the tramp into the woods, I got fatiqued just reading where you went. ;-)

Posted by: Butch at March 26, 2008 02:01 PM

An afterthought:

Physical abuse has to be the lowest form of saying you love someone and showing it in violence. One does not beat them. I grew up being physically abused by my own father and one never gets over it. Sorry, for your cousin's problem with her husband, but she sounds as though she is doing the right thing. It is too easy to continue buying into their poor excuses as to why they beat on a person. If I would have been in a situation where I could leave and had support, I would have in a flash. I hope she hangs in there and does not buy into his apologizing and wanting her back promising not to ever do it again only to have another excuse to do it again and again. The man needs help but doesn't realize it.

Posted by: Butch at March 26, 2008 02:10 PM

Sorry to hear the situation arose from which your cousin has to escape. Having been in a similar situation recently, it's very hard to escape and live at the same time. Hope things continue to look up and improve.

Posted by: Christopher at April 5, 2008 02:21 AM

Good morning, Rob

I thought I would stop by and just say , "Hi." I imagine with school and all that goes with it, and just trying to have a "social-life" ( which rarely exists, when in school ) you have been more than busy. Hang in there, eventually the light begins to show at the end of that long tunnel. Spring is in the air and the weather can only get better! Hope you're getting a chance to get out and experience " the charms of nature."

Posted by: Butch at April 5, 2008 09:09 AM
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